No, I’m not referring to Mufasa’s brother. I’m talking about that one time you fell and scrapped your knee, how bad it hurt and how the blood was wiped with swift hands, but hours turned to days and days to weeks and weeks to months but you woke up every morning to the mark it left behind and you would just giggle and remember how you tried to form Chief gymnast on the stair case and how you cried as they cleaned up the wound. You would have mixed feelings of regret and relief, knowing that you won’t try it again.
Well, let me take you through something I’ve been thinking about for some days. Have you ever been heartbroken before? If yes, can I see a show of hands? Oh, sorry, you’re reading this. How long did it take you to recover from that heartbreak? 2 weeks? 3 months? Have you even healed till now? For those who healed, that event definitely left a sting in you, maybe not as bad or as visible as a physical wound but just as painful. Heartbreaks maybe from relationships, marriages, friendships or anywhere leave us with indelible traces of regret and so make it hard to repeat what we did. That aside, I’ll be going into some core parts now, as we transit from childhood to adulthood, there’s a streak of years in between called teen-age(Youth), and with those years come endless “Perils” but how about bad habits, Porn, Masturbation or anyone you can think of. Don’t feel guilty yet, calm down.
You see, a lot of teens and ‘post-teens’ suffer from the scars that these habits leave on them. They may be the scars of guilt, neglect, frustration, self-rejection, low self-esteem, you name it. Scars are inevitable and indelible every day, people get scarred everyday but the most important thing is, how do I react to those scars? I’m I going to just lock myself away or think I’m worse of for doing it in the first place? You’ll just leave your life gloomy, unproductive and disturbed, ha, now that work needs to be done? No oo.
But hey, that’s why you’re reading this, NOW FOCUS, LET ME TELL YOU HOW TO REACT TO THOSE SCARS; BECAUSE THEY ARE POWERFUL.
You have to understand that you are not the only one that went through what you went through and that there are people living life to its full with these marks all over them. After that, YOU TALK TO PEOPLE YOU TRUST. Hey, come on, make sure your secret is safe with that person so you won’t have to deal with trust issues in the future, if there’s no one like that in your life, then you have to CONSIDER CHANGING YOUR FRIENDS AND YOUR CIRCLE but that’s for another day. READ BOOKS on scars and LISTEN TO TALKS on them, any you can lay your hands on, I mean, put on your earpiece and WALK TO CLASS LISTENING TO A HEALTHY DOSAGE OF “YOU ARE STILL IMPORTANT”. Then, most importantly, SPEND TIME with YOURSELF TO RE-EVALUATE and see how far that process has brought you then share your experiences. See, told you I would help, I’m sharing what I know. Bur see, another very crucial reason why you have to get your voice out on time is because people who have dealt with this the wrong way are also willing to lend their voice to anybody and we don’t want them spreading “weed” to the plants, that’s where thoughts of suicide come, from hearing the wrong voice.
So, in conclusion, thanks for coming this far but we need to wake up now and realize that our scars don’t define us, we can turn them to our power and get people rescued from what we once suffered from. The world is waiting, on you, on me, on anyone, let them find us first.
Love from Zubby